Thursday, May 20, 2010

A little less decorating...

Ok-So I know I usually blog about decorating and how to do it on the cheap.
I give tips on how to shop the thrift stores, how to spray paint and how to drink diet coke and eat chocolate all at the same time.
I know, I know, I am super cool.
but..I just had to get this off my chest.
If you don't want to read my opinion on some things other than decorating-than don't read this post.
I'll be back to regularly scheduled programming tomorrow.

So..I just got my Ballard Designs catalog today in the mail.
I have to make a confession..Before blogging I had never even heard of Ballard Designs-let alone looked at one of their catalogs.
I was ok with this.
I was totally ok with the fact that no magazine or retail store told me what I should like or how I should want my home to look.

I was ok with my home-the way I loved it.
Now, don't get me wrong, I have learned a lot from great decorating blogs. I do love to cruise total strangers blogs and get a look at their homes.

The one thing I don't like-is comparing myself to everyone out there.
Maybe I am lame to admit this-but I am hoping that I am not the only one out there who feels this way.
Sometimes I blog-and I hope so much-that you-the other women out there in blog land will like me. I let others opinions shape how I feel about myself, my home and my ideas.

Yes-I totally understand that we only post the best of the best.
We stage pics, we try to get the good lighting and then we photo shop to get the absoulate best we can get.
And yes-I know all of this-yet I still compare.

I tell myself that my home isn't good enough.
I tell myself that what I look alike isn't good enougth.
My size of jeans are too big-my lips are to small and my arms don't look like they used too.
I have dishes on the counter, crushed cereal on the floor and toothpaste in the sink.

Then...I get on the computer and look at everyones Better homes and gardens pics and think...
"their life is so much prettier than my life."
I bet they don't blog in the their pajamas and blatanly ignore their children who are killing themselves in the corner.

So..I am here to confess.
I am one of those women who do all of the above.
I also drink too much diet coke and I feel guilty when I don't exercise. Which is never.

BUT....I am also a wife to a man that any woman would be lucky to have. A mom to three beautiful girls, who everyday remind how lucky I am to have 3 heads of hair to do just right.
I love to create my house into a haven, a refuge from life's storm.
I am blessed to tuck my girls into bed every night and I know that they love me no matter what size my pants are, if my dishes are done, or if my home looks like it should be in a catalog.

So..I guess this post was really just for me.
But.. if there is any one else out there who feels this way.
Know that you are in good company!


Thanks for listening to my rant!
I will be back with more spray painting lunacy tomorrow.

Love you all...

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16 comments :

  1. You're honest, you're hilarious, and you're beautiful...and I'm sure your home is, too! I totally get where you're coming from and I've done my share of it, too. However, over the past few years, I've developed some fairly life-affecting chronic illnesses and the best part of it is how it has freed me to be me, so I'm encouraging you to be YOU - there's always someone looking at your blog thinking how together you have it. I really appreciate you sharing how you feel and I'd love for you to come see me sometime at sceneofthegrime.blogspot.com
    God bless you and yours and thanks for your blog!

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  2. You're NOT alone!
    This was my post a few days back! I totally get it, and you DON'T have to have a house that looks like a freakin' model home.

    It's a sickness that is in blog world.
    Comparing and feeling sad about it!

    You just have to look past it and take the inspiration and not the envy, out of each blog you love!
    That's what I'm trying to do.
    It took a little practice, but I'm getting better and better everyday. :)

    You are doing great, girl!
    Shelley
    PS. I DO want to throw all my kids in bed right now at 7 o'clock. LOL
    Have a good night! lol

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  3. Tausha, I recently joined your blog for two reasons... you and your mom, and some great inspiring ideas. I I am so grateful you put it out there ....meaning this is my life, it's REAL and look at what we manage to accomplish while raising a family. Mom and I were discussing this past Tuesday...Tuesday is "our" day together..about blogging and all the hard work that it takes,from the postings, to the giveaways, pictures..and so on..I told her I was still hesitant to start posting on my blog. I cant do it like they do...I don't know what I am doing etc...however, after knowing there are women like you, addressing the real life behind the computer, I wont be afraid, I will "keep it real", the real me..pajamas, did I comb my hair today, dishes and toothpaste in the sinks! You go Tausha

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  4. I love this post. I can relate to a lot of this. It took me a long time to even blog, and then when I did I only told my family and a select few friends about it. I didn't consider anything I did special enough for anyone to even want to look at it.
    I have a statement I say before I post anything (because honestly I second guess everything I post) "I’m not the best at this, but I’m the best I can be at it." And then I decide I'm happy with that. Somehow that helps.
    Oh... and I don't even know what Ballard Design is;)

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  5. I have really only know you in real life for what, a month? And I already know that this is one thing I love about you - you are real. You don't try to be someone else, you always write what's on your mind...and you are great. You don't have to be great to be someone else Tausha, because I really just like you the way you are - and I think everyone else does to! Thanks for posting this,'cause I feel the same way!!

    PS: I gave you two awards on my blog but honestly, don't feel obligated to pass it on (I won't feel bad at all) because sometimes it's more work than you really get recognition for! But I do love your trendy blog!

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  6. Tausha this is a great post....I am in my PJ's all morning while blogging...my house has gone to pots except when i have to take pictures for a project etc.....I think all of us women from time to time feel this, it is a natural feeling for sure. I liked you from the first time you came over to my blog.....:) First impressions to me mean a lot....so you got it girl!

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  7. I needed a little honestly today...thanks!

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  8. I love you! You are so awesome. Thanks for keeping it real! I feel that way all the time. No one is judging me but me, that's the hard part to remember. Keep up the good work

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  9. I didn't know what Ballard Designs was too -until about 9 months ago! I thought I was the only one. :) Everyone has problems, though they may appear perfectly staged in the bloggy world! Don't compare...you have wonderful and great things about you, that's why we like to stop by here! :)

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  10. I fall into the trap of comparing my life to others TOO often. But I am also reminded by the same things you are everyday. My life is so far from perfect, but it's my life to make what I want of it. It's a beautiful thing!!

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  11. Pfftt! Oh honey I'm so there with you! If you want to see some real photos that haven't been staged, edited or croped feel free to come on over. Keeping it real is half the battle when you see some of the stuff out there ... I'd rather be out with my kids having fun!

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  12. You are so right-- and the sickness of comparing ourselves/our homes/our families to everyone else's isn't just in the blog world. It's everywhere that people gather together. I fall for it too. You said it so well and I am so glad that you realize that you are beautiful, your home is perfect for your family and loving and enjoying each other is the most important thing you do! You go girl!!

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  13. Oh my goodness, my husband and I had this talk just the other day! My house is never pretty enough and I'm never satisfied. My house shouldn't be the source of my joy, the Lord should be. I love love love that you are real about your own struggles. Thank you for your honesty! I have been blessed by your post today and many others that have inspired me to be brave with spray paint! Enjoy your diet coke and embrace imperfection! :) Blessings to you!

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  14. You said this so well. I found you over at SITS in a discussion about just this from ME:Daily who I love. We are all just human and I'm so glad that this is getting talked about. I LOVE your honesty and it's just the think I look for in a blog.

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  15. Loved this post. I think everyone feels this way but yet we still compare. I think there are just not enough hours in the day to have the perfect house, the perfect family, and the perfect body. I know I can't do it! I have actually been trying to scale back the blogging a bit just because I felt like I was starting to neglect what really matters to me, my family. I don't want to ever look back in a few years and realize my life passed me by while I was blogging on the computer trying to impress others. I love that people share their ideas and I can be inspired by them and that is what I am trying to focus on doing too. Being an inspiration. Otherwise, blogging can just be very self-destructive! You are awesome and you are beautiful. I think your ideas are great and don't ever think you have to compromise who you are. Thanks for posting this. It definitely takes guts.

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  16. to be honest, there are some blogs i just can not look at because no matter what i tell myself, somehow i feel so bad about me...but then again, i keep doing it... ha ha we're just so smart. my house is messy, but i have kids and we're living in it... so how can it ever be clean.
    ps. i actually did not know you had all girls! that is so fun!!!

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